"I have good looking kids. Thank God my wife cheats on me". - Rodney Dangerfield (one of my favorite quotes on cheating)
Cheating takes form in many different ways. I want to start off by saying that the way men cheat and the way women cheat ARE NOT the same. My friend Seneca agreed by saying:
"If a guy cheats, which I'm not condoning, its different then if a woman cheats".
-Seneca
But the one thing I didn't agree with was this:
"A man can emotionally detach himself from a woman after the act of having sex. He may cheat but then act as if it never happened. Its not an emotional action but something physical and instinctive. However a woman is much more likely to become emotionally attached and gravitate towards her new partner”
-Seneca
BUT... listen to this ladies, a man that understands what goes through women's heads...
“So if a man cheats its less likely provoked by his woman. If a woman cheats its more than likely its due to her mans inadequacies in some area”.
-Seneca
I do agree that women cheat not because we are selfish but because our partner is lacking something, because I know that's the only reason why I would cheat, if and only if my partner was lacking something AND if we have spoken about it and he refuses to either fix the situation or at least try... because one thing is for certain no one wants a partner that's lacking and then on top of that is unwilling to satisfy their partner, because I'm open to just about everything you throw at me and I expect my partner to be the same. What I don't agree with is the emotional attachment, because I know I've never been emotionally attached to the person I was cheating with. They know what their there for and I believe that everyone who cheats should always set the boundaries with the other person on why your actually cheating in the first place because you don't want them catching feelings either. Continuing my conversation with Seneca:
ME: im liking this
SENECA: If there is such a lacking on behalf of the man should she really stay with him and is it worst that she cheated or he cheated?
ME: im only for the cause of cheating if your partner is lacking something and their not willing to do something about it, because that means their only out for their pleasure and not their partners when someone else is obviously willing to do it.
SENECA: Lol is ur partner lacking?
ME: lol we're not talking about my partner... this is going on my blog, I cant talk about that LOL
SENECA: Haha just answer the question... Its "off the record" as u journalist say
-so off record after our discussion about our partners he says-
SENECA: If ur ever in need of a fix I got u
ME: LMFAOOO, ur promoting cheating right now smh
SENECA: Lol its between me n u
SMH I love Seneca, he's always been a good friend, even though he pops in and out of my life, he's always been someone I was comfortable around... he's too funny
Now you hear more about men cheating than you do women, and I know for a fact that there are more women out there who cheat than the ones who have either gotten caught or who have willingly admitted that they have done so. Yes women are sneaky, depending on the woman, but so are men, their just not as good at it as we are. Again we are females>felines> as my boyfriend would call cats... "sneaky". HA!
Yes I've cheated before... I believe everyone cheats. YES, WE ALL DO. Like I said it comes in different forms. We either cheat physically, by having any sort of sexual relationship with someone else other than our partner, mentally... yea ladies you know that hot guy you were checking out while your man wasn't looking? YUP, that was cheating. Straight cheating. Admiration can always lead to other things. Flirting? Yes even though it's a simple act, and even when we might be doing it without actually wanting anything out of it, it's still an action that can lead to something else.
I've had this conversation multiple times with many different people, but I always favor what my men have to say, because these are the men who I've hung out with for years and ask them for advice all the time. My friend Carchi decided that he wanted to play both roles but I told him he could only play one and decided that his statement was from his alter ego LOL:
“my opinion is it ain’t cheating until u get caught”. - Carchi
Leave it to Carchi to say that, but for many people that's actually true. I don't really agree with that. If your cheating, your cheating, straight out cheating. That's all I have to say for this segment, part 2 will be up shortly.
"If you know how to cheat start now". -Earl Weaver
-Butta Love, the provocative verbalist
