"I like marriage. The idea." -Toni Morrison
Marriage is a union between two people. Personally, I'm still trying to grasp the concept, the meaning of marriage and what it really stands for. There are people who are divorcing each other everyday, yet they make a vow in front of God "til death do us part". I wonder if marriage has been corrupted simply by the people who choose to get married or if the meaning of the word itself has just been twisted and changed throughout the centuries. People don't always marry for love, but that's how it has always been. Some cultures have "arranged marriages" in which most of the time the couple grow to love each other, but more as friends than actually lovers. So I look at a culture like our own and wonder, we have an opportunity, a choice to choose who we want to marry, yet it doesn't work. Instead of sticking it through, people don't have time or don't care to and find divorce to be an easy get away.
I'm still at an age where I don't fully understand marriage, and I don't know if even people who are older than me do. Why does marriage have to be a contract? Why are people fighting to get a piece of their partners belongings, when shouldn't it already be yours also to begin with? I don't want to, I refuse to get married if this is what it'll look like. I rather be alone. I want someone who is willing to marry me and work everything out, one who is going to love me through the rainy days and when I've done wrong and will accept my apology. Marriage isn't perfect, just how the individuals in it aren't. I had written a poem for my boyfriend, Kelly, and somewhere at the end of the poem I wrote:
"You see Kelly, your not perfect but your imperfections are for me to see, their what makes you perfectly perfect for me".
- Butta Love, the provocative verbalist
That's how marriage should be. No one is perfect, but whatever imperfections the other one has should be the ones that fit you. I don't know if I will ever get married, it seems to mess up everything that seemed to be perfectly fine before it, but I do still have hope in it, because there are many people who's marriages have lasted "til death do us part", and yes there are some who have divorced, because sometimes it doesn't work out the first time, but end up finding their true match. I hope that when that day comes, I will be saying my vows to my soulmate. I don't want a replica, I want the real thing; the one I am to spend the rest of my life with. Marriage is a gift that not all of us get to appreciate. It is a life long partnership, friendship that cannot be broken. When someone is meant for you, not even the splitting of the Earth can part you from each other. Marriage is a blessing, a blessing I hope I deserve.
-Butta Love, the provocative verbalist
