What is Jealousy? It is a feeling, an emotion that refers to negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity.
Now, I can personally say that I am not an insecure person but I do get jealous and I really despise when people say they don't get jealous. There is a difference between being jealous at times and being a jealous person. Being a jealous person is part of your character, who you are. It's not part of my character because I can care less what my friends do or boyfriend does, as long as their not out plotting to backstab me or cheat on me, no need to sweat it. Now I do admit I am very territorial, ask any of my close friends. I become very territorial when I find my friends hanging out with someone I don't really know or fully trust. I'm very observant, so if something doesn't click, then yea..
Now I'm the type of person who trusts until you give me a reason to not trust you. It's a limited trust. Just because I say I trust you- you better believe it doesn't meant I trust you with anything and everything and to the point that I don't watch you. Jealousy consists of this, you not trusting your partner, at least for a relationship point of view. Over the years I have found myself to have a different sort of jealousy. I've never not trusted my partner, I didn't trust the bitch who was trying to talk to him because of course, us females can be very grimy and there are many desperate females out there, sadly. So I do steam sometimes if I see another girl approach my partner, depending on my mood though, that's the only factor.
Jealousy can and will blind you, depending on how far you take it. In my previous relationship, with Fah, even though he did things that physically, emotionally and mentally drained me he didn't want to let me go and what made it harder was that neither did I, him. It causes you to not want to let go of the person that you love or hate at the moment, wherever your mind is at at that particular part of the relationship.
"Jealousy lives upon doubts. It becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty".
-Francois de la Rocherfoucauld
I can deal with a jealous partner, not overly jealous, don't want it to be part of his character, but I would appreciate a little bit of it here and there, it kind of shows me, "hey i see what's going on", that he's not stupid, even if it's a small "yea so you had fun tonight.. i saw you talking with some guy" even if it's casually brought up, which is the best way, it's fine. It also shows me that he cares enough to get upset, because there are some men that swear on their graves that they "got it like that" or simply because their probably to busy checking out some other chick, LOL, kidding- but seriously ladies I know you know what I'm talking about, and even my men know what I mean. Just make sure it's not serious to the point where your partner is burning your shit in a bathtub LMAO.
Jealousy can be a destructive emotion. It ruins lives and relationships and I feel that you must know your limitations and boundaries, if you don't then maybe you should get some help or help for your partner, whoever has the issue.
-Butta Love, the provocative verbalist
